Can a person sense if I am needy?

The answer is:” Yes the definitely can!” being needy is not something that we can easily hide. Most of the time it’s so obvious that they can tell from the first date. I will walk you through the most obvious signs of neediness. Understanding where the problem is can help you fix it. No one likes needy, clingy people, this is a turn off for most of us. Here’s what your date sees and why they might interpret as neediness.

Lack of confidence on the first date. First date ends, you look at them with an insecure smile and ask: “Did you have a good time?” This might not appear such a big mistake, but your date can interpret it as being insecure. If you were confident you would not even ask if they had a good time, you’d already know. You should be asking them “So, where shall we go next time?” You don’t have to use the exact same words, but you get the picture. Confident people know what they want, and this is what we are all attracted to, right? Confident people.

When is a good time to call them? Here’s a situation when you can have “needy” written all over you. The three days rule is obsolete. No one has to wait so long to call someone they like. This doesn’t not mean you should call them right after you date, to ask if they got home safe, then call again in the morning to ask how they slept. Or, if they haven’t called you back, you start emailing or texting, to ask them if they got your call. Just give them time to breathe and have time to miss you. Use common sense, don’t appear desperate. Call them once, after that, it’s their turn.

You say “yes” to everything they say. Ok, we all like to be right and have people agreeing with what we say. But we don’t always expect from our date to say “yes” to everything that comes out of our mouth. This translates into:” I don’t have an opinion of my own, so I’ll just go ahead and accept whatever you say and do whatever you want me to.” And you don’t want them to think that, do you? Again, we get to confidence. If you are confident and smart, you will stand up for what you think, even if it means contradicting someone you like. Don’t be afraid to disagree sometimes, they might even like you more if you do.