In my experience as a psychic when men choose to end a long term marriage/relationship there is often another woman somewhere in the picture. Of course there are always exceptions but in my psychic readings I rarely find situations where men choose to leave the unhappy but comfortable set up to just live on their own. At some juncture of their lives another woman comes along and the connection and comfort of that new person is compelling enough to go through the discomfort and stress of leaving their long term partner and often breaking up a family home.
At the same time there are men who get involved with another woman outside the marriage but for various reasons never end up leaving their wife. For the person involved with a married man they’re faced with that question of which one are they? Is what they have real enough, strong enough and is the timing right for that person to leave his wife? Or is the person you’re involved with never going to leave no matter what. Now despite sincere advice from the friends telling you “Never to get involved with a married man, because they will never leave their wife” the truth is many men do leave their wives, it is no longer socially unacceptable for people to divorce. So it’s not unrealistic to think the person you are involved with will leave his wife.
At the same time I know from my readings there are men who really are just having an affair and have no intention at any point of ever leaving their wife, regardless of what they promise. To help you work out which one is which here are 7 signs a person s “less likely” to leave their wife. These of course are just indicators, as I have used the words “less likely” there will always been exceptions to the rule but overall if you experience any of the signs below it is not a great omen whatever way you look at it.
1) They refuse to or are unwilling ever to speak about their wife. This way they ensure from the start the possibility, probability or mere notion of them leaving never even gets discussed. From the start their moods and emotions let you know that talking about their marriage is “no go” topic. This lack of openness on one hand avoids them facing their own guilt, but at the same time it’s a way of separating the two worlds they have created.
The answer is:†Yes the definitely can!†being needy is not something that we can easily hide. Most of the time it’s so obvious that they can tell from the first date. I will walk you through the most obvious signs of neediness. Understanding where the problem is can help you fix it. No one likes needy, clingy people, this is a turn off for most of us. Here’s what your date sees and why they might interpret as neediness.
Lack of confidence on the first date. First date ends, you look at them with an insecure smile and ask: “Did you have a good time?†This might not appear such a big mistake, but your date can interpret it as being insecure. If you were confident you would not even ask if they had a good time, you’d already know. You should be asking them “So, where shall we go next time?†You don’t have to use the exact same words, but you get the picture. Confident people know what they want, and this is what we are all attracted to, right? Confident people.
When is a good time to call them? Here’s a situation when you can have “needy†written all over you. The three days rule is obsolete. No one has to wait so long to call someone they like. This doesn’t not mean you should call them right after you date, to ask if they got home safe, then call again in the morning to ask how they slept. Or, if they haven’t called you back, you start emailing or texting, to ask them if they got your call. Just give them time to breathe and have time to miss you. Use common sense, don’t appear desperate. Call them once, after that, it’s their turn.
You say “yes†to everything they say. Ok, we all like to be right and have people agreeing with what we say. But we don’t always expect from our date to say “yes†to everything that comes out of our mouth. This translates into:†I don’t have an opinion of my own, so I’ll just go ahead and accept whatever you say and do whatever you want me to.†And you don’t want them to think that, do you? Again, we get to confidence. If you are confident and smart, you will stand up for what you think, even if it means contradicting someone you like. Don’t be afraid to disagree sometimes, they might even like you more if you do.
Part 1: Why Do We Give Mixed Messages? In theory, communication is a simple concept: I say something and you respond appropriately; I express what I want or leave it if there is nothing I feel inclined to say. It may be simple, but it is not easy. Perceptions, emotions and all of the differences between us get in the way. This is where the confusion and misunderstanding comes in. This is where mixed messages thrive.
When we are in a relationship or a developing relationship, because our feelings are running high and are so important, we can become very confused if the other person starts to display mixed messages about their interest in us.
These messages can come in the form of what they say or their gestures. One week they may display closeness and interest and the next week they may leave a call unreturned or ignore a sms. Now they are acting as if they are not interested and want to avoid you. You may think that that is the end of the relationship. However, the confusing part is to come: out of the blue, they may suddenly contact you, decide they are really keen and start behaving in ways that show their enthusiasm for you.
This is what is commonly referred to as giving mixed messages in a relationship. It is a “come-to-me; go-away; come-to-me†style of interaction.
The source of mixed messages… We all know the feeling of being confused and unsure as to what we want. The way in which we speak and behave depends on what is going on in our hearts and minds and our experience of the world. There are always so many thoughts and feelings running through us that we simply can’t act on all of them. Some we tune into and others we let go.
When you are at the receiving end of mixed messages, the person giving them is alternatively responding to their desire to be close to you and then their need to withdraw. They are responding to their feelings that surface at that moment in time. You must not consider it in absolute terms, in other words that they either do or don’t like you, as they are simply behaving according to their inner world. Your experience of them matches their internal experience. People give mixed messages because they have mixed feelings going on inside them! Understand yourself in order to understand them…
