Behold, an epic battle is taking place ,as the “forces of darkness” wage war against the “forces light”, in a clash in which the outcome will determine the fate of humanity”

Sounds like a dramatic by-line for a new Star Wars film? Think again, this is real, this is happening and we all have a choice to increase the light or succumb to the darkness.In this article Ewan Nicholson explores how the debate over climate change has now taken on an even bigger meaning and purpose, eclipsing questions of weather patterns and climate science and becoming a question of humanities survival or demise.

Human often understand issues through the power of a story, rather than a detailed explanation of the facts of what and why something is happening. Stories and myths have the ability to convey powerful and meaningful messages about the nature of humans and the issues we face throughout life. There has been much written around Joseph Campbell’s book the “hero of a thousand faces” .In it he demonstrates even though we have vastly different cultures through the world we a linked and connected the by common themes and understandings about life and humanity .In it he outlines the twelve’s stages of the hero adventure or quest  , he threads in a multitude of myths and legends across time and culture and regions of the world to illustrates how each culture has their unique version of the hero journey .It appears humanity has unique pockets in its means of expression but essentially the same understanding of the process of how we approach adversity and attempt to grow, what we will encounter and eventually how we are triumphant  in evolving as individuals and society.

Right now the meaning and map that these twelve’s step reveal could never be more relevant to our global civilisation. If you see the hero in the story as being the majority portion of humanity that wants to live peacefully and in harmony with the earth, in such a way that we hand over and earth to future generation that  is liveable and sustainable. This collective mass of humanity, although divided, is faced with this quest which has the gravest of importance with stakes as high as they can get. For appears the overall population hasn’t full grasped what is really going on. There has yet to be a collective “click” that the issue of climate change has crossed a line from a question of how we manage and address the increase is post-industrial temperature of the earth and the consequence of its rapid accent, to an issue of do we allow our planet and civilisation to be decimated and destroyed on the action of small cabal of greedy and sociopathic men.

What you want to know Vs What you need to know.

What you want to know Vs What you need to know.

Breaking the illusion that “will it” or “won’t  it” type answers is what you really need to know..

Doing psychic readings you come across and cover very common and consistent themes .One of these is a person wanting to know if what they are feeling about a person or potential future, is based on some intuitive feeling and sense, or is it plain old ability to let go that projects itself as wishful thinking?

A situation that often bring up this dilemma would be when a relationship has ended and the person having the readings wants to know if they will be back together or not. They may feel in their hearts that is truly “isn’t over” but know enough to know their own mind and feelings are clouded there history and attachment .So they call their trusty psychic, that in theory is meant to deliver the punishing verdict  “get over them” or inspiring validation that “yes they will return” .

Yet the process of how this answer is given and why the insight of the psychic is valid doesn’t get too much attention. People anxiety demand an answer that fits either one of two choices, being a yes they will no they won’t type thing. Yet this binary or dualistic thinking in of itself can misleading and unhelpful .Our school system teaches us from early age something we carry into adult life which is when it comes to solving problems to think in terms of right or wrong. We learn that questions have either yes or no answer, right or wrong outcomes, which in maths and many sciences is perfectly correct but in the area of human relationship and development maybe not so. The reason binary  problem solving is limited is that when it comes to how we feel, there isn’t a fixed, permanent ,unwavering position to determine that remains locked absolutely one way or another. Often are feeling are conflicted and confusing. Maybe one part of is happy and relieved to be way from the relationship , an other parts feels we are running away and truly miss that person. Either of these feelings could be then heightened or diminished by the feedback our internal and external environments we reside bring to us

So it can end up being a case that maybe one part of someone’s thinking is pure fantasy  and an other part they is genuinely some knowing regarding the potential of a relationship. This means both future of YES and No both co-exist, like a of Schoenberg  cat paradox relationship. Schoenberg  a famous quantum physicist  created a thought experiment centred around the perplexing reality of how light could be both a wave or a particle, depending on how it was measured. The experiment goes they shoot of some light int the box that a cat in enclosed in. If they decide to measure it as wave, poison is realised and the cat dies, if they decide to measure it as particle, no poison is released and the cat lives. So in theory, the event you might say has already happen, but the result are determined by how they choose to measure it, therefore before they decide, the cat is both alive and dead .Click here for actually proper explanation of this. Yet the basic process can exist in relationships, that potential for two or many outcomes may simultaneous exist all together. Which outcome is the one we end up living, then ends up a mix of fate and choice.

How easy is it living life and being happy in the midst of our modern media filled world?

(Small note before you begin this article. In addition to my psychic readings I have a very active interest in political activism and social justice .Not to the point of chaining myself to trees but by actively reading and financially supporting causes I believe are worthy if that support. As this is a blog primarily to give help and advice for my psychic clients I don’t normal focus article on this. That said ,I have recently being trying to integrate my writings on self-development with social activism .As I believe in the future the two will gradually merge into one. So below is more of an essay rather than an article .So it’s quite long and in-depth but I do believe if you read it through you find it will help make better sense of how easy it is in this day and age to feel down and stuck and instead beating yourself up over it learn to be more compassionate and understanding towards oneself. All that said.. enjoy  )

As with most advice based writings, be it personal growth, self-help or relationship guidance the focus is centered around this choices that person is making. This is understandable, in sense that is often it within our own minds and hearts that we have some influence on creating positive change in our lives. Yet at the same time this perspective (which I write from often) of “It’s up to YOU” can miss out a critical factor in what shapes and influence where people are in the relationships with themselves and others. This factor is the environment and context from which all of each person’s problems emerge. Such as our society, our culture, our economic and political environments ,all these areas of influence can’t be removed or seen as oblivious to the things we think and feel , both about ourselves and the world we live in. This is even more the case when examine and see the immense power and reach the modern media has in our lives. This is not only the case for us adult but it is even more so for the next generations. As we see stunning statistic now that tell of the average teenager in the UK year old will spend 7 hours a day glued to a screen, be it the TV, their IPad, smart phone or Laptop , they are saturated in the media and its message. So in this essay I would like to look at exactly how the media its current form impacts our live and experience of relationships with ourselves and others. As it’s a worthwhile question to ask, does the media within society we all inhabit make it easier or harder for us to be fulfilled and at peace? Is the media rich culture that surrounds us, an affirming force in helping us build loving and close relationships with others and ourselves? As any good advice for being happier must factor the environment that happiness is being strive for in. Telling a person in overpopulated, maximum security prison, they need to see ” The glass half full”, when they are the receiving end of violence ,rape, fear, intimation and isolation on daily basis of course comes across as naive, patronising and glib. So why should saying the same thing apply to a person stuck in menial job they loath, living alone in a small cramped flat, up to their eyeballs in debt and been without a loving close relationship for the past five years be any less facile . These examples highlight that “advice” that is just about the person, without context to their environment can’t be seen as “whole” or even “helpful” advice. If anything it has the danger of furthering some ones sense of dis-empowerment and low self-confidence, as if they unable to be “more positive”, or make “affirming changes” they may squarely blame themselves, rather being more compassion and understanding towards themselves about how hard it really can be when your encased within a certain “non –helpful” environment. The “be more positive” angle also furthers an inherit disconnect, ignoring the fact that any significant personal change comes from support, friendships, connection and fullness of our relationships , never from solely someone’s driven will power and personal conviction . So we see we are not only do we battle with our own self-limiting beliefs, but we are surround by a modern culture that has a very different agenda to that of us being happy, which we will now explore.

How can we stop making bad relationship choices?

The more I know , the more I only know, that I actually know very little .I am sure that is a famous quote of someone’s that I have hijacked but it about sums up what I feel when I learn what I learn. What I tend to discover is many of my assumptions about life and relationship’s, when carefully examined don’t match the reality of what I see and experience. There seems to be in myself and society as a whole a wide chasm between the things we believe and the reality of what we end up creating. It’s like there is the story of what goes on inside your head, the story we self-narrate ,as we saunter through life. We tell ourselves what we want and what matters and apparently shape our choices around the fulfillment of these wants and dreams. A common story is “I want a loving, stable and fulfilling relationship” .Then we set about our quest to find such a relationship; we scan the barbeque of our cousin seeing if anyone fits. We set up an online profile, with are shopping cart list of qualities and specifications of the model of relationship we want. We then have to write a confident but modest account of who we are, with just a touch of humour, not too much as you don’t want to be seen as a clown, not too little to avoid been seen as a bore. Then we are off and running, a few crash, a couple fire then fizzle and then finally ,wham! We manage to find someone that wants to be with us as much as we want to be with them .
All the while this is going on we assume that the “I” that is making choices, selecting and filtering, processing and crunching the “love data” that crosses our path is the “I” of our conscious mind. We tell ourselves that we know exactly what we are doing and why. It all makes sense and we can successfully rationalize why it is “this” person we choose to set up a life with, rather than “the other”. Yet although this would be the common held story most of us tell ourselves ,why is it we can attracted relationships that end up being quite bad for us, that may always end in rejection or disappointment? Although in the moment, we are convinced completely otherwise, we feel totally confident that this is the right person for me.
The confronting answer to that question lies in the acknowledgment that there more powerful unseen forces at work in us and others shaping both the people and situation we gravitate to .Its due to the fact that it’s not our conscious mind really doing the choosing ,it that the subconscious, with its imbedded belief systems, that will have the final say and what “is” or “is not” allowed into our life. I see it at work in readings often, a person we will be enthralled by someone who doesn’t have any interest whatsoever ,while simultaneously disinterested and dismissive of an another person who is actually may being willing and able to give them what they claim they want. They reject the more stable choice based on the lack of attraction or “chemistry” .The loving ,available person they say , they just don’t have the “chemistry” and they are right, what they are failing to grasp is the “chemicals” that have been created and consumed will make them sick and dysfunctional .That is an unconscious need that identifies some unconscious need in the other that essential seals the deal, not all the reasons we attribute in our head .In the same way if you have grown accustom to eating junk food, when you go to eat a healthy salad it won’t feel right, or will tastes disgusting. What we like relationship wise can operate on a similar level, we crave for the “Mc Donald’s of relationship’s” because our we feel because it is what we yearn for , it is therefore what is best for us , never questioning or examining what part of who we are,that is actually doing the “yearning”.
So it would seem paramount in the pursuit of love to be willing to get to know and explore the workings of our subconscious mind. A great way of uncovering of what it is that truly drives us is by uncritically and compassionately looking back at the actually reality of what has happened in our life when it comes to our relationships. Then to do this, with the awareness that each every relationship involvement, good or bad came into your life because that’s what you wanted and that’s what you choose. It is reevaluating our personal history thinking that every person we allowed into our story, long enough to be what you would call a “character” , rather than just an “extra”, is a relationship that formed by some kind of subconscious agreement as to why we are letting that person into our lives and why they are doing the same.
When you have chequered history of challenging and unsuccessful relationships that process can be quite confronting, as the feeling we are victims, to either fate, others or even ourselves is very deeply imbedded .How could I have chosen or wanted “that”, we think to ourselves,as we look back at a person who betrayed us and broke our heart. Yet is actually makes sense we you see that the part of you that’s conscious didn’t choose but another part of you that’s subconscious did. What is challenging is when the set of needs and drives are vastly divergent to what our conscious mind is telling us we need and are driven by.
There people that don’t have that issue, the romantic relationship they are in fulfill both there subconscious and conscious needs, as there is some degrees of harmony and uniformity in that persons total consciousness .Yet for many of us, myself included, that unity is not present, which is then validate by an often repetitive process of starting thinking something is going to be one thing but it ends up something every different. The is an aspect of chance for sure but when this seems to occur over and over then it starts pointing to something deeper than just an unlucky twist of fate.
When this unobserved drive can wreak the most havoc, is when we are oblivious its actions and influence. Continuing to deny its power and bearing means we keep reaching “out there” for another chance, we keep rolling the “love dice” hoping this time we win. Yet winning only becomes possible at a minimum ,when realize the game is fixed, the dice are rigged and no matter how many times we roll, no what matter what twist of the hand we use, or how many kisses we give the dice, the end result will always be the same.
Accepting this can be a really big breakthrough, although it quite confronting things start to make sense. We can start to see what we consider “bad choices” as being the subconscious doing its best with what it knows and within what it knows that choice at the time were for the best. So we can cease blaming ourselves and others and start to open a bridge to that hidden part of who we are. As I potter along in my own life, I see that distinction more and more vividly between a life lived “conscious or aware” and a life lived “unconscious or unaware”. The choice becomes ,do we just spend our adult life living out all the unlived or repressed aspects of our parent by imitation or going the opposite? Do we spend our adult life escaping into numbness and avoidance from the pain we refuse to see in ourselves. At heart will our adult lives just be one big retreat and distraction from the depths of who we are really are? If that is the case we just sleeping walking through life and allowing our unconscious to set the parameters of what we do and don’t achieve, wind up the EverReady bunny playing the drums and off it goes.
The alternative is living the conscious life. This requires us to really face all of the ugliness and willful blindness of our ego. Which is always easier not to do, as who wants to face up to the fact that all the negative qualities we so accurately observe in others, exist within ourselves. As I see really living a more conscious life we remove the little “secret caveat” we hold close to our chest that reminds us that “It’s OK because it’s not my fault, I am the goody, they are the baddy” type belief. There becomes a gap too vast , as you can no longer reconcile the sense I am fully responsible the whole of who I am and I am a victim, as the two stories can no longer live together in the same space inside ourselves
So for me a big insight into my own grow and development as a person is realizing I have a enormous reservoir of “being” or “am-ness” that impacts and directs my life that I have little or no awareness of. Annoyingly so, like many people I only see its impact in hindsight .Its only at 38 I see how bad choice it was to get involved with a certain person when I was 21.Hindsight, as they say gives us 20/20 vision. That being the case we must also assume when I get to 60 I will look back in the same way about the choices I am making now at 38.As I can only assume whatever forces I was blind to then at 21 ,because I haven’t seriously look into what drives me, are operational now.
So I start to see the work of bettering myself involves doing nothing other than just becoming more aware of what is really going on in me. This means questioning and examining the things I believe. Working to then understand where my drives and belief actually emerged from .
Its a weird feeling to suddenly feel a stranger to myself, that I have an hidden aspect of “I” that has a vested interest is evading the light of awareness from my conscious “I” .So what I discover I will keep you posted but I think for anyone looking to have happier and more lasting the relationships, the process of truly knowing all of oneself, gives you a greater chance or ensure negative history doesn’t repeat itself .It gives us a greater chance to live the life we choose , as opposed to living a life that is on-going reverberation of childhood imbedded beliefs disguised as “choice” .I think that is why many of these opportunities come later, post 35 in our lives. As we need to have a body of evidence, a list of failures to be open enough to say something is not working. Within this we can then see that even our darkest and most botched relationship have meaning and purpose, as they slow become sign posts for us to return to the divinity and wholeness that welcomes us coming home. It gives us a feeling that what has happened, all roads, not matter how treacherous, leads us back to a place of peace and understanding. Although stopping, stand still and peering the light of awareness into these dark and powerful rooms of our being, is to begin a scary process, it soon transforms into something liberating and freeing ,as we reach an acceptance that “all of us” is worth loving and “all of us” has a place and purpose in the story we live and the people we love.

How do you make sure you needs are meet in your relationship?

There are fundamental needs and drives that compel most humans. These are broader and basic drives then many aspects of our relationships and psychical environment are often shaped around. I would consider these following the most fundamental
1. The need to feel secure
2. The need to feel in control
3. The need to feel special/separate
4. The need to feel connection.
This isn’t an official list, rather just what comes to mind when break down other more detailed or nuanced needs, then general end up following back on one or a combination of the four mentioned above. For example the need for close friends can be seen to be an expression of the need for connection and security. Telling your teenage daughter what time they are expected home by may come from a need to feel in control. Letting all your friends know about your big promotion may come from the need to feel special and different from others. So all of us in way or the other over the course of a day expend energy and time on getting these needs meet .Even those who spend the whole day focused on fulfilling someone else’s needs, can still be tied into their need to feel secure.
Its not hard to observe the vast different in others.in the very same way each of us is unique in our psychical characteristic, our emotional behaviour has its own unique configuration as well. We come into this world with you might say core template that is then shaped and influence by our environment and spontaneous mix of nature and nurture. So as babies we have very core drives at work, the drive for security and the drive for connection. Each time a babies cries in hunger and is then fed lovingly by the mother, there is an attachment loop being re-enforced .It brain is being hardwired to feel that it needs are being meet, which allows them to feel secure and safe .Criminologist have now conclude that the majority of violent crimes occur with people that didn’t get that feeling of being attached and being secure during their infant and childhood years. There is now and immense amount of studies and data that show how fundamental attachment during childhood is to the way we live our adult lives .As it’s in these years, we are taught and programed how to see the world, our relationship and most critically where we see ourselves in all of it. This conditioning literally hardwires the brains neurologically pathways that transcend our normal conscious thoughts, which you might say get layered on over these basic patterns. This is why many people feel at times baffled about why they keep making the same mistake or keep choosing the wrong guy, unaware we are acting out an unconscious method that aims at fulfilling a deeper need. . The problem is they needs and the methods we go about having them fulfilled may run contrary to your thinking mind wants for itself. As choosing a person that ends up rejecting us maybe rerun of some part of childhood where we were taught that being rejected is what happens when we reach out for our need of connection. That we found a kind of security and anchor when we play the role of being rejected. Although this is a little simplistic it just illustrates how we can do one thing in our conscious mind but are actual truly being govern by our sub-conscious training regarding he best way to get our needs meet. As we can’t escape our the compelling drive behind having our needs meet, no more than we can supress or ignore our need for food and water. So if we just assume this drive for having a needs meet is happening one way or an other, the question then is about our we having these need meet in a way that is honest, healthy and fulfilling. To answer that we then need to really open a door to self-discovery.
There I am sure some pretty basic ways we own how we get our needs meet Maybe we are quite conscious about the fact we crave approval and compliments with the awareness that receiving this type of positive attention makes us feel secure. Its here we have an opportunity at first to just understand and take ownership of the fact this is exactly what we do and why we do it. Second, we can then ask the question “Is this an effective way to feel secure? Are the other way to feel secure that don’t rely on getting constant positive feedback?” There is nothing wrong with posgtive feedback and praise but when it becomes a way to fulfil a basic need then get a disproportionate place in our mind and feelings. What we wear, how we look, the status we hold, the money we earn, the people we mix with, the views we hold, the newspaper we read, the study we have done all of these and more can be shaped and sold in a way solely about getting people to approve of us and compliment us. We can invest huge chunks or our time and attention in a method of feeling secure that at its heart can only ever briefly and fleetingly meet that need. As the act we think we need to promote or get others to see to get the attention we are looking for will never get a day off .The very nature of how this need is fulfilled require the same a amount of water it takes to fifll a bucket with a hole. As being admired or told we are wonderful never really gives us deep and peaceful sense of being secure, we have to keep investing, keep trying over and over, deluding ourselves that we a bit more effort we can get there. All of us have our own version of this circular and delude method of getting our needs meet. Maybe for us its about having control over others, or being a people pleaser , what it is doesn’t matter as such, rather it’s a question of is this the best way to get this certain need meet.
As looking at the example above we start to see that maybe for this person the feeling of being worth and whole being understood as innate attribute that isn’t earns or acquired , could bring them the sense of security that really does feel peaceful and maintainable. So with the same energy that put into getting other to think they are great, is instead redirected to learning how to feel that wholeness, what blocks them from that and how can they practise and integrate this into there every day lives .This is like plugging the hole and actually for once filling up the bucket.T his is replacing a tired and ceaseless struggle that never quite get there with an simple ,long-lasting and authentic way to really feel secure and really have that need meet.
This is the one thing I am starting to learn when it comes to personal growth and becoming happier in my life is it is not about new things I need to know or do, rather it’s about unlearning what I already know .I think in most of us have that innate ,kind and contented part of us. It resides deep with our minds and there times we get glimpses but we refuse to question that part of that thinks it knows better, that is convinced this time will be different .Our ego are very cunning when it comes to doing everything possible to change except the most obvious and straightforward things. So to begin with there is a level of humility and openness required. There is also a weariness required with the ways we employ not working. Its takes many, many experiences that end in things not being where we want them, happening over and over again until we final sit up and thinking that maybe there is something inside of ourselves that need to be look at. So with that humility, openness we can explore how our needs are meet and bring our focus to unlearning what once may have work and allowing our own natural and connected to self to come through.

Expectations: How they hinder and how they help our romantic relationships…

When do high standards become unreasonable expectations in the search for new love?

Will a lack of expectations limit the quality of relationship you attract ?

Psychic medium Ewan Nicholson explores the role of expectations in creating successful and lasting relationships.

When I was seventeen I had a Peruvian friend Humberto , who took me to a family friend for a coffee cup reading. At that age I was already reading tarot cards and I had a keen interest in all things “paranormal.”  I had never had tea cup or coffee cup read, so I was quite curious to see how it was done and what it would reveal.

The Mermaid in the cup…

The lady in question was very friendly and like most psychic didn’t use any props. She gave me a small espresso size cup and poured a thick and bitter Turkish coffee. When I finished it she asked me to turn it upside down on the saucer, which I did. After a minute or so she picked it up and started to examine the images she saw. She told me she saw an airplane and actually showed me where in the cup it looked like that, as it was like making pictures from clouds. She told me the airplane showed travel, possibly overseas.At that time I was booked to fly out to the UK, so I thought that was good to start. There were a few other things she saw but the one thing I remember to this day, was the fact she saw a “mermaid. She explained this as meaning I was romantically looking for something that didn’t exist and I needed to be more realistic and grounded when it comes to getting involved. She explained to me that sometime love comes gradually as result of time and getting to know someone, so she said it was time I gave someone a go and stopped being so choosey.

A psychic truth.

What was so striking about that insight was how precisely true it was, but it was a truth that was privy only to me. What she saw was something inside me that I knew was true but was unable to be honest enough to admit it. Although I can never really know for sure if it was the total reason but, when I looked back I see that reading as being the trigger to what opened me to my first real relationship.

What is lurking in the shadows?

Psychic Medium Ewan Nicholson explores how facing the things we hide in our “shadow self” ,can enable us to find more peace in our lives.

The idea of facing our shadow self sounds scary. Yet the process of facing our shadow self is fundamental in terms of living a relaxed and contented life. What is the shadow self? According to Wikipedia the Jungian definition of the Shadow is both

(1) The entirety of the unconscious, i.e., everything of which a person is not fully conscious

(2) An unconscious aspect of the personality which the conscious ego does not recognize in itself. Because one tends to reject or remain ignorant of the least desirable aspects of one’s personality, the shadow is largely negative. There are, however, positive aspects which may also remain hidden in one’s shadow (especially in people with low self-esteem)

Running parallel to the development of our shadow, we also build defences and walls to protect others from seeing our shadow self, as the fear built deep within our psyche is “if I expose of all my bad qualities it will result in not being loved.” Yet in the end the person we hide this part from is actually ourselves. Through denial, suppression, distraction and avoidance, we can go as far as shaping our whole lives around not looking at this part of who we are.

Hiding what we don’t like.

The process of how it develops is an inevitable evolution of knowing how we learn to integrate and live harmoniously in our environment. There are some emotions and feelings that are necessary to temper or hold back. So if we are told from very early age that “anger” is not acceptable and we are punished for it or feel intense disapproval as result of expressing anger we gradually place it in our shadow. As we have progressively associated being angry with not being loved, we filter this emotion out or certainly limit its appearance. Yet anger does have a healthy aspect of defining boundaries and sticking up for what we want and what we deserve. In holding back our anger we may hold back our confidence. An other example is our sexuality. This huge aspect of ourselves can often be assigned to our shadow self. In our culture, society, religion and often families there can be very fixed beliefs about sexuality being tied into morality and character. Feelings that may be very natural and healthy may be labelled sinful, depraved and morally repugnant. Yet the banishing of these feelings to our shadow self does not make them go away. They sit within our shadow self, repressed and festering, looking for an outlet but confined by rigid belief systems. As you often see these famous Christian evangelical preachers who condemn homosexuality publicly but end up getting exposed in some lurid , debauched gay orgy .It seems the deeper the feelings are suppressed, the more extreme the outing of those feeling are. Like a sexual pressure cooker that just explodes.

Why do many women have more courage than men when it comes to being on their own?

The article below was inspired by a client who would prefer to remain anonymous , so lets call her client L.J  I did many readings for L.J and I have tremendous respect and admiration for the changes and choices she has made .Her life now is really evidence  that as hard as it can be, life can and does get better when we trust and follow how we truly feel. If you read this L.J you have a lot to be proud of

Although I don’t have any credible data to back up my theory, actually I don’t even have any credible data to back up being a psychic , but that aside in my experience as psychic reader I would say that when a man who is forty plus, leaves a woman ,more often than not, there is another  woman’s somewhere in the picture. Yet many women I have done readings for have left their husbands without the security and comfort of a partner waiting in the wings for them .Of course there women who leave relationships to be with someone else but none the less, this is phenomena I have observed.

The word I used in the title “Courage” to describe the characteristic that women possess in this area more than men, is word purposely chosen and a word that accurately describes what is needed and required of a women to leave a man, without the safety net of another.  As courage is the willingness to take action not because one is fearless but to take action despite the crippling fears that may be present.

I think there are a number of things that contribute to this in the dynamics of relationship. I think a very basic one is how each partner has their needs meet .It would seem for someone men, having wife present , to do all the daily things of running a house, to go on holiday with and general feel look after maybe enough. They may no longer be attracted or have any romantic of loving feelings but security of just the other being there , is far better than being alone .In fact it may not be until an other women arrives on the scene and stirs up some of the more forgotten and numbed out needs that this man may consider leaving there partner. Although it may be wrapped up in the romantic language, it can often be a case of a new model has appeared on the market that can better fulfil what I want, this new model maybe younger, pay them more attention, stroke their ego and so forth.

Is there a secret formula to finding a happy and fulfilling relationship?

Psychic Medium Ewan Nicholson explores what formula, if any, is there to finding a loving and fulfilling relationship and how psychic readings may help someone get there.

Throughout my time as a professional psychic, my work has ended up being about helping people through common themes. The most frequent area of life I deal with is romantic relationships.Time and time again clients come up against genuinely stressful and disappointing  scenarios in the course of trying to find happiness in there love life. From being involved with a person who can’t commit, to being single and struggling  to meet someone special , to falling in love with a married person, to breaking up with a person who you yearn to be together again .All these situations are unique but they also share common characteristics and invoke common  feelings and thoughts. What is great about the similarities we share with others, is our common problems provides with the opportunity for a common solution.

I truly believe, that each person has the ability to create and attract  relationships into their life which are secure, fulfilling and beneficial. Our desire for closeness is healthy and it is often  our close relationship  that provide us with the meaning and depth each us yearn for in life. Closeness also brings colour and vibrancy into our lives ,which can be well needed when we are immerse in a society that is often automated and  impersonal .Yet when you have genuinely endeavoured  to find that closeness and repeatedly fail to do so over a period of years, it is easy to start to doubt the legitimacy of that need . What we once would have deemed cynical and pessimistic we now call this thinking as being “realistic”. We may find ourselves vacillating from somewhat depressed “can’t be bother”  which after period of time our need for closeness and connection prompts  to make and “effort” in which we venture out with all our past hurts and fears. Wary that if history repeats itself it gets harder and harder to keep trying but the longer we go without the love we are seeking more we may yearn for that closeness and connection. So we are faced with conundrum “I want a close relationship but I don’t want to set myself to feel disappointed and let down”

I find it a great honour to able to support and guide people towards a place where they are able to find that love and peace within themselves and their relationships .In my personal and professional experience, I have no doubt that the fastest way through a problem  is to be able to ask for help and support. Although in the end we all have to take responsibility for our life and choices, knowing we are not alone in our issues and that others do care about our well-being, makes the whole process a lot more easier and lot less tiring. It also encouraging knowing other have been where we are and they managed to find a way forward ,into more loving and rewarding relationships.

Blogging about to re-start :)

Hi All,

After what has ended up being over a year without posting an article I have started by my writing back up again. So this is my blog rising up from the dead, reborn and hopefully renewed.  Many of my clients are already aware I had some issues with one of my daughters regarding her health that ended up consuming much of my time and energy .Thankfully that has been sorted and I now have some more space to start investing energy back into writing articles and sharing my thoughts and perspective on things. I would welcome any feedback or question any of the readers would like to see answered in the blog .I am also going to be including more video and audio to make the content more dynamic. Look forward to hearing from you.

Take Care

Ewan