Painful events always happen for a reason…um accept when they happen to me
Often in my readings I share with people the value of seeing the meaning and purpose in all of how life unfolds. I tell them when there in a 
painful scenario, that everything happens for a reason and nothing is by chance and nothing is inherently negative, challenging yes but negative no. This perspective is nothing new and has been repeated and phrased differently by many people, over many centuries. For me it’s a view that makes sense and can really help people gain perspective when we come up against difficult times.
Though I truly believe in the meaning of all things, it is something that is certainly easier said than done. The challenge of truly integrating this outlook I have lately felt in my own life. Recently I have ended up entangled in situation that has been very stressful, disconcerting and difficult to get my head around and make peace with. It has involved the buying of property and the work involved taking from a empty plot of land into a liveable house. It’s a horrible feeling to know you have shafted while at the same time you know there is nothing on practical level you can do about it. What can then make it even worse is looking back and being honest about that fact that I put myself exactly where I am, maybe through unfounded trust, gullibility and lack of thoroughness in investigating what I was getting into but none the less it arose from choices I made. Then on top of all that I am aware that it hasn’t been the first time I have ended up on the raw end of a deal. As I you thought I had learnt my lesson only that I obviously haven’t
The bottom line is according to my own perspective that I espouse to my clients ,my own tough situation has happened for a reason, something good will come of it and the best thing I can do is accept it with a loving detachment. Umm I think…do I really say that to people? Umm this is not easy ,feeling so wronged and then asking of myself to see it as so right. As I can’t get it out of my head how this has set me back,I can’t seem to let go of the anger of feel toward myself , the supposed victim and them the supposed villains .I have imaginary conversation and confrontations putting it all right and getting justice, even though I know this will never happen. Up to now the only measurable outcome of what I have been going through is stress and struggle.
it’s a good honest article Ewan – which I can certainly relate to – when a really big fat challenge comes along that is genuinely testing – we have no alternative but to make it transformative as it’s all just too depressing otherwise and if we allowed it to – it would have the power to ruin our life – I definitely had challenge on this kind of scale and hard to believe at the start – it all righted itself with the right approach. To get through mine I kept a daily blessings journal as I have always found writing very helpful as a way of remaining positive in challenging times so I used it as a way to keep my mind in the right place and it did work – I gave thanks for every single blessing that I could think of nevermind how big or small each day and this caused a big shift in terms of what I was able to attract to me and how I felt mentally and spiritually – and the whole situation was truly transformed in time to something far better than it had ever been before… It sounds a bit simplistic when put like this and it was a process and the change felt like a miracle – but I felt I had to let you know that I have been very tested myself at times too – and come through it with a lot to feel happy (and kind of proud) about….it is another level of mind mastery that is called for – and very challenging since what has happened is mindblowingly difficult and painful!!!! My thoughts are with you…..and you will succeed….