The Art of Reading and Understanding Mixed Messages

Instead of wishing and hoping that the other person will become clear in their communication, we need to take the change into our own hands. If we adjust our expectations, we create clarity and consistency in our lives. We will then see that the issue lies with the other person.

Being realistic… We step away from all of the emotional ties and readjust the expectations that we have so that they are in line with the current situation. When we are more realistic like this, we will not be swept up into the back and forth of feelings.

You do not need to adopt someone else’s confusion. You can remain steady in the midst of it. With clarity you can be aware and accept that you like them but they are not in a clear space at the moment. You are not resisting the situation. You are present with awareness and surrender to what is.

Moving forward… As you work with your feelings in this situation. You will find that you release yourself from the cycle of this dynamic. The answers will follow. Your consistency and clarity may influence the other person positively and things start to turn for the better. The relationship may naturally subside or perhaps you decide to question this person on their behaviour.

You may decide to ask them what message they truly wish to convey and then work from there. Remember they are in a state of confusion and are probably already afraid of expressing their feelings. You need to be gentle and relaxed in your approach. If they feel they have been put on the spot, they may well respond defensively and deny their interest.

Hold that space of understanding and clarity. Do not simply hand over all of your feelings and open yourself up for disappointment and hurt.

Accepting the flow of life… What you need to realise is that life is not always as we plan or hope. Everything has its time and place. This may be the time and place for you to have a relationship with this person and it will blossom, or it is not to be. Either way, you need to trust the process of life.

The answer is to understand yourself – you will never know exactly what thoughts, feelings and ideas another person is having. By being aware of your position and the reality of the situation, you can become clear, consistent and calm. Once you have let go of your resistance, you open the way for your life to move with peace and flow with the universe.