The Cure to Commitment Phobia Revealed

In my experience, one of two scenarios will unfold.

1. You never hear from them again In this case, what you will have discovered is you are not allowed to do to them what they do to you; the moment you assert a perfectly normal boundary you will be punished with silence and total disconnect. You then need to ask yourself if this is indeed a person you want to be with. It may be best to walk away. Don’t simply sit on the sidelines and watch your opportunity for a mutually committed relationship go by.

2. They call the following week In this case, they may have more respect for you and, in fact, their interest may have grown. This doesn’t mean that suddenly all of the commitment issues have been resolved, but it does show you that the situation can be different; not because the other person has changed, but due to your changes. Time and time again I have seen people, still filled with their fears, start running after a person the moment their attitude changes; but, remember, you never have to compromise your wants and needs. Always interact with this person in a way that is confident, dignified and caring towards you. The key…

In order to change the dynamics of the relationship, you need to make a commitment to yourself to tackle your fears and take responsibility for your life and emotions. For this, you need to be loving and caring towards yourself. Once you experience this self-love and let it flow into your attitudes and actions, you will find profound change in, not only your relationships, but also your life.

Through dealing with your limiting beliefs and destructive fears you may well naturally move on from your current relationship and its lack of commitment. By releasing yourself from this dysfunctional relationship and by loving yourself unconditionally, you will open yourself up to partners who will commit and hold you in their lives with great love.